A new book, 'Lessons from My Father', gathers personal essays from prominent South Africans reflecting on their fathers' legacies. Featuring contributors like singer Zolani Mahola and swimmer Chad le Clos, it expands on a popular Daily Maverick series. An excerpt from author Joanne Hichens highlights her diplomat father's life and encounters with global leaders.
The essay collection 'Lessons from My Father', compiled and edited by Melinda Ferguson and Steve Anderson, delves into the complexities of fatherhood in South Africa. Published by Melinda Ferguson Books at R340, it includes inspiring, humorous, and poignant stories that mirror the nation's social landscape and advocate for stronger family connections.
In an excerpt titled 'Everyone has a story', author Joanne Hichens shares memories of her father, Alan McAllister Harvey. Born in March 1933, he joined the South African Department of Foreign Affairs in 1957 at age 24 and served as a career diplomat for four decades. Initially aligned with the National Party, Harvey later became chief of protocol under President Nelson Mandela after the 1994 elections. He advised on diplomatic protocols, such as how to bow to Japanese dignitaries or handle Chinese toasts, and organized events ensuring decorum among heads of state.
Hichens describes her father's humble and curious nature, contrasting with her mother's ambition. Her mother was the first woman to graduate with a law degree from Stellenbosch University. Harvey's career included postings as head of mission to New Zealand—where his car was once pelted with eggs over rugby tensions—and as ambassador to Taipei. In retirement, he served as honorary consul for the Philippines in Cape Town.
Among cherished items in her father's old briefcase are photos of him with the Dalai Lama, Pope John Paul II during a 1995 visit, and Mandela at the 1994 inauguration in Pretoria's Union Buildings. Other mementos include a certificate from Queen Elizabeth II, a letter granting the Keys to the City of San Antonio, Texas, and clippings on Mandela's 2013 death. Hichens reflects on her father's lesson in tolerance and equality, drawing from the Vienna Convention of 1961, which treats sovereign states as equals.
The book calls for reclaiming fatherhood's power amid South Africa's challenges, emphasizing forgiveness and human connection.