Relationship experts in Kenya say mobile phones can build healthy bonds or shatter them, depending on usage. They offer advice on wise communication and avoiding destructive habits. This hinges on quality interactions and respect rather than suspicion and contempt.
In today's world where mobile phones are central to communication, experts stress using this technology wisely in relationships. Psychologist Jane Muthoni says the issue is not the device itself but users' behaviors. “Many people say ‘I miss you’ but do nothing to strengthen communication,” she states. She advises that a short call can brighten a partner's day, especially with a gentle greeting rather than emotionless texts.
Social behavior expert Patrick Mwangangi warns against using phones to sow doubt, like asking “Where were you?” which sparks defensiveness. “Your partner feels cornered and defensive, as if in prison,” he explains. He opposes forcing a partner to show their phone to verify conversations, calling it contempt that erodes respect and reveals deep mistrust.
Family psychology expert Daniel Obiero adds that calls should not be for issuing orders, blame, or money requests alone. “Start with a cheerful greeting. Ask about their well-being. These small things carry great weight,” he says. He cautions against hanging up during arguments, seen as contemptuous, and suggests pausing discussions gently.
Experts agree video calls build closeness, especially for long-distance couples, by conveying presence through smiles. Muthoni recommends calling when the partner is alone and avoiding anger or public talks. Mwangangi concludes with a call: “Use it to enhance love, not destroy it.” This highlights how technology can bridge relationships if applied with wisdom.